Resources for Survivors of Suicide - Making Funeral Arrangements
Most families are totally unprepared emotionally, as well as financially to bury one of their members. When it is the death of a young person, many families feel pressured to “do the right thing” by providing a full funeral service even when they have no ability to afford the expense involved. Trying to make these decisions when you are in intense shock and grief is obviously extremely difficult.
Ask a trusted friend or relative to accompany you when you must make these decisions. Talk with your clergy or funeral director about all the different options available to you. Be aware that there are lower cost alternatives such as cremation or using a personal container rather than a coffin. One option may be to establish a “memorial fund” for the individual. Donations can then be used to offset the costs of the funeral. The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) has a 60 page booklet with financial tips for surviving suicide.
Remember that friends and family are there to support you in your decisions, not judge you. Do what works best for you and your family.